Small Acts of Kindness
You never know what someone is going through. Every one goes through different things in life at different paces in different phases. We don’t always talk about it and for that reason it is extremely important that we always follow the following two rules:
Never take anything personally
Everyone is caught up in their own personal life, so they don’t see things from your perspective. They see it from their perspective. Our past shapes our brain and thinking structure, this leads us to thinking in special patterns. As we all have a different past, we all have different thinking patterns.
Everyday is a new day with new opportunities where new things happen.
Most of us are stuck in our thoughts all the time, may it be about the current day or week, the past or the future. When we see someone we know and they act weird, we blame them.
"What is wrong with her? Why didn’t he say hi? Doesn’t she like me anymore? I didn’t even do anything."
Another example: We go to a shop or bar and the employee gives us a snappy response to whatever we asked or said. We think: "Why is this person being so rude to me? Smiling wouldn’t hurt him for once."
But it’s never about us. They were just too caught up in their own heads and were thinking about something that had happened earlier and they were in a bad mood. You just happened to meet them after said situation.
Even if someone is rude to you all the time. Let’s say a co-worker treats you differently than other workers, is more rude to you or makes fun of you. Most likely it is because they need love and don’t have enough of it in their own life. Or they might be jealous of something that you have and they don’t. It doesn’t always have to be materialistic, maybe it’s one of your personality traits that triggers them.
Is it fair, if they lash it out to you for that reason? No, it isn’t. All you can do is to have an adult-like conversation with them about it and if they do not change, simply keep distance to them. For the most part, we get to decide with whom we want to spend our time and if people are not helping you feel better, the best thing you can do is keep distance to them and let the situation go.
Be kind to everyone
Yes, even when someone is being rude to you. Like I just said, they probably need it more than we can imagine. This doesn’t mean you have to run around and do everything for them, it simply means that giving a genuine smile can often go a long way. If they don’t smile back, let it go. Don’t think “ugh I will never smile at strangers again.” This is what the ego wants to do. But we have to be bigger than our ego. Even if I didn’t get a smile back, I will continue to give love and light to everyone that I come across. The more you give, the more you will get back.
I cannot tell you how many times people have told me that my smile, or a compliment I gave them made their day or how much they needed to hear / see that. I didn’t know simple things like that could go such a long way until so many people told me. That’s why I want to tell you this. Small acts of kindness can go a long way and it doesn’t cost us anything. Even if it did, it’s worth it for you are raising the vibration of humanity with all these small and simple acts of kindness.
There are a lot of things happening on on this beautiful planet, a lot of things we label as “bad”. Because of that it is even more important that we do a lot of small good things that will add up to big good things.
Everytime you give a smile to a stranger or a friend, you raise your and their vibration. Every time you hold the door for someone, give someone a genuine compliment, you raise their vibration and your own.
Everyday you have countless opportunities to do something good. Use these opportunities and together we will make this a better world.
All the love,
Nikita